tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9327470.post8584158912556770452..comments2023-11-05T02:38:40.129-06:00Comments on higher powered: Not perfect, just excellentdAAvehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10378341182741173178noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9327470.post-33524617715441890662010-09-02T09:06:05.240-05:002010-09-02T09:06:05.240-05:00Right on! When I started Al-anon 32 yrs ago, peopl...Right on! When I started Al-anon 32 yrs ago, people kept telling me I was sooo hard on myself. My mom, the preacher's wife - often blatantly said "I'm perfect" meaning that everyone else was not! So I tried & failed miserably to be like her & be liked by her. <br /><br />In Program I learned that Perfectionism was a symptom of self-hate, which in turn was a cover-up for all the abandonment we experienced growing up (on all 4 levels - mental, physical, emotional & spiritual). <br /><br />I thought if only I could be perfect, they'd love me & never leave me. <br />Since then I've 'grown' a GOOD inner parent who accepts my inner child unconditionally, even when I still feel the old abandonment terror. <br /><br />I can now say with complete confidence - My parents (both gone) missed out on knowing a wonderful person - ME! :)Donna M Torbicohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06419357497977457646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9327470.post-52541408406680404262010-09-01T23:05:08.231-05:002010-09-01T23:05:08.231-05:00perfectionism for me was tied to my fear of what o...perfectionism for me was tied to my fear of what others thought of me which is what I thought of myself. Now I don't mind so much what others think of me. It has greatly decreased perfectionistic attitudes in me. And I agree, you can be excellent, davemariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01700941649031924777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9327470.post-11675393381379383802010-08-31T09:43:36.208-05:002010-08-31T09:43:36.208-05:00I recall how lovely Houston feels when it gets tha...I recall how lovely Houston feels when it gets that hot, ugh!<br /><br />I love that I can accept my own imperfections. Now if only I could accept them in others :-)<br /><br />Thanks dAAve!Scott M. Freyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11588618061480681504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9327470.post-48610770649794619132010-08-31T06:59:28.875-05:002010-08-31T06:59:28.875-05:00Lots of R'bows and B'flies been appearing ...Lots of R'bows and B'flies been appearing last couple weeks. Gratefulsteveronihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17498524940140288735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9327470.post-55912208913347398132010-08-31T06:33:02.681-05:002010-08-31T06:33:02.681-05:00Glad the weather is cooling off.Glad the weather is cooling off.Mary Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08156474205414127488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9327470.post-1115235781241130952010-08-31T06:15:08.626-05:002010-08-31T06:15:08.626-05:00I have softened my perfectionism a lot. It was a c...I have softened my perfectionism a lot. It was a control issue with me because all around seemed so uncontrollable (it was) that I wanted those few things that I could control to be perfect. Glad to have moved on from that.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.com