Drink, Steal, Swear & Lie

sent to me by a friend ...

DRINK, STEAL, SWEAR & LIE

I met this guy while I was in Albuquerque and he has a motto he lives by everyday. He said listen carefully and live by these 4 rules :
Drink, Steal, Swear, & Lie.

I was shaking my head 'no', but he then told me to listen while he explained his four rules. So here they are :

1.. "Drink" from the "everlasting cup" every day.
2.. "Steal" a moment to help someone that is in worse shape than you are.
3.. "Swear" that you will be a better person today than yesterday.
4.. And last, but not least, when you "lie" down at night thank God you live in America and have freedom.

I am not as good as I should be, I am not as good as I could be.
But THANK GOD I am better than I used to be !

Have a memorable weekend.
It's AA Birthday Night at Lambda tonight.

Whew!

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

that I made it through a very busy week -- sober!

for another great 1st step meeting at the nooner -- a woman about my age came to her first AA meeting, not looking at the top of her game

that I may get my T-bird back today after throwing more money at it more mechanical work, including a new transmission

that the house closing went off without incident yesterday

that I'm not having a colonoscopy today (been there, done that)

"You must be the change you wish to see in the world."
-- Mohandas Ghandi

"One's philosophy is not best expressed in words; it is expressed in the choices one makes. In the long run, we shape our lives and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And, the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility."
-- Eleanor Roosevelt

"Whether you are a success or failure in life has little to do with your circumstances; it has much more to do with your choices!"
-- Nido Qubein

Closing day (I hope)

The current stage of construction on the new house.

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

that I have been able to find the energy (somehow) to complete the process of moving house

that people trust me

that we are scheduled to close the deal on the old townhouse this morning

for help in moving my plants form the old home to the new home, from a lesbian with a pickup truck

Humility is the solid foundation of all the virtues.
-Confucius

I am now homeless (sorta)

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

that we read "Physician, Heal Thyself" yesterday at the 6:30am meeting

for your comments yesterday about the term trigger; it's caused me to re-think about the use of that word as it relates to sobriety

for the HUGE attitude change I recognize in myself over the past 5 years; I wonder if it has anything to do with not drinking and then practicing a recovery program?

that I'm now moved out of the old townhouse; just have some tidying to do today

for a good friend who is allowing H & I to live in his spare bedroom; it's like a 4-star hotel (actually H won't be here until next week - he finishes school today in Trinidad)

that I got this laptop computer last month, otherwise, I would have had to move my desktop puter around like a laptop

"Self-acceptance comes from meeting life's challenges vigorously. Don't numb yourself to your trials and difficulties, nor build mental walls to exclude pain from your life. You will find peace not by trying to escape your problems, but by confronting them courageously. You will find peace not in denial, but in victory."
-- J. Donald Walters

picture this ...

this is a picture of everything
(click on it to enlarge)

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

that we had a wonderful Step 12 meeting at noon

that holidays are not triggers for me to drink; in fact, I have yet to find a trigger

that today is moving day; well, at least half-moving day as it all goes into storage for a few weeks

that I got 95.44% of my packing done yesterday even though I felt like crap

Argue for your limitations and sure enough they're yours.
-Richard Bach

Memorial Day Monday

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

for the millions of lives lost so that Americans can have opportunities

for another opportunity to see, feel and experience life as a recovering alkie

that Tracy R. told her story Saturday night; she is a true miracle of the program

for cold meds; I got hit pretty hard over the weekend

that I will get my packing finished in time; the movers are here tomorow morning and the house must be totally vacated by Thursday morning

If you don't know where you are going, you might wind up someplace else.
-Yogi Berra

Sorry Officer

I dare you to try this.

double play

A man and a woman were sitting beside each other in the first class section of an airplane. The woman sneezed, took out a tissue, gently wiped her nose, then visibly shuddered for ten to fifteen seconds.

The man went back to his reading.

A few minutes later, the woman sneezed again, took a tissue, wiped her nose, then shuddered violently once more. Assuming that the woman might have a cold, the man was still curious about the shuddering. A few more minutes passed when the woman sneezed yet again. As before, she took a tissue, wiped her nose, her body shaking even more than before.

Unable to restrain his curiosity, the man turned to the woman and said, 'Couldn't help but notice you sneezed, wiped your nose and then shuddered violently. Are you OK?'

'I am sorry if I disturbed you. I have a very rare medical condition. Whenever I sneeze I have an orgasm.'

The man, more than a bit embarrassed, was still curious. 'I have never heard of that condition before' he said. 'Are you taking anything for it?'

The woman nodded, 'Pepper.'



"We in Denmark cannot figure out why you are even bothering to hold an election.
On one side, you have a bitch who is a lawyer, married to a lawyer; and a lawyer who is married to a bitch who is a lawyer.
On the other side, you have a true war hero married to a woman with a huge chest who owns a beer distributorship.Is there a contest here?"

Body Art on Friday

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

that yesterday's 6:30am topic was Tradition Three -- "the only requirement for membership in AA is the desire to stop drinking" -- a friend says that AA can't lower its standards any further than that. LOL

that Ali (the young girl with the black eye 2 weeks ago) made it back to a meeting, albeit shaking very very badly and moving very slowly. I wanted to help but thought she might better identify with a couple of young women from her own generation, so I asked them to speak to her. I hope we see her again today.

for lunch with other sober drunks

for some tangible progress on our new home; it's about 3 weeks from completion (I hope)

"Find something you love to do and you'll never have to work a day in your life."
-- Harvey Mackay

Keeping it up

(click on the cartoon to make it BIGGER)





todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

that Laura L told a small part of her story yesterday at the noon AA meeting; a few tears broke loose from my eyes

that she reminded me of the tremendous concept of not giving up 5 minutes before the miracle

that I chose to chair a discussion meeting that centered around rejection; apparently, I'm not the only person in the world with those feelings

that Frank T went to a ball game with me; I'm not sure why I called and asked him to go, but on the way to the game, he told me that it was his 6th AA anniversary. Coincidence?

One must care about a world one will never see.
-Bertrand Russell

a new look

Zane (Zanejabbers) asked me to let yall know that he's OK. He's having internet problems and will be back ASAP.







todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

for the people in my life because they are my life

that I didn't panic yesterday when I found out I must move from my home next week (we close on Thursday and the buyer can't extend our stay; our new home won't be ready for several more weeks)

that my cats will stay in a CatFlat (kennel) and an AA friend will house H and I

for a minor controversy yesterday at an AA meeting. It was about an outside issue being introduced (religion) and several people spoke up about its inappropriateness.

that somebody sent me this yesterday ...
We human beings are very funny: when something bad happens in our lives we say, "Why me? Why is this happening to me?" But when we wake up every morning and are alive and healthy and our family is well, we never say, "Why me? Why am I so fortunate?"

Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.
-Albert Schweitzer

still changing

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

for the major changes I have made in my life, personal and professional

that I needed help in making most of those changes

that I have no plans on writing a book

for evidence that I'm not the only imperfect human being
(not that I'm taking any inventores LOL)

that I finally got my new, old T-bird legally titled
(the previous owner sent me an incomplete title and it had to be rectified)

To exist is to change, to change is to mature, to mature is to go on creating oneself endlessly.
-Henri Bergson

May days

IMAGINE YOU ARE AT A PARTY .... Tenth floor of a hi-rise building.... AND THEN YOU HAVE TO VISIT THE BATHROOM.... You open the door.... NOW, REMEMBER, THE FLOOR IS JUST A PAINTED FLOOR !



todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

that my worst problems don't amount to a hill of beans compared to most people

that most of my problems are made by me

that I attended a speaker meeting Saturday night and got to hear a talk by Duncan E.

for my weekly Saturday evening dinner with Zane and other friends

that an old friend returned to the rooms last night after 4 years of additional research

that I got to speak with my therapist for a few minutes at Lambda; he and his partner are moving to New Mexico in 2 weeks; once again, I'm being abandoned (shuddup David)

"Sometimes when I consider what tremendous consequences come from little things. I am tempted to think there are no little things."
-- Bruce Barton

"Success is nothing more than a few simple disciplines, practiced every day; while failure is simply a few errors in judgment, repeated every day. It is the accumulative weight of our disciplines and our judgments that leads us to either fortune or failure."
-- Jim Rohn

"It takes less time to do things right than to explain why you did it wrong." -- Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

Bad flight

Best Song Titles

You've seen these before, but they're worth further consideration...

Best Country-Western Song Titles of All-Time...


1. Get Your Biscuits In The Oven And Your Buns In Bed
2. Get Your Tongue Otta My Mouth 'Cause I'm Kissing
You Goodbye
3. Her Teeth Was Stained, But Her Heart Was Pure
4. How Can I Miss You If You Won't Go Away?
5. Can't Get Over You, So Why Don't You Get Under Me?
6. Don't Know Whether To Kill Myself Or Go Bowling
7. Got In At 2 With a 10, And Woke Up At 10 With a 2.
8. Hate Every Bone In Your Body Except For Mine
9. Just Bought A Car From A Guy That Stole My Girl,
But The Car Don't Run, So I Figure We Got An Even Deal
10. Keep Forgettin' I Forgot About You
11. Liked You Better Before I Knew You So Well
12. Still Miss You Baby, But My Aim's Gettin' Better
13. Wouldn't Take Her To A Dog Fight, Cause I'm Afraid
She'd Win
14. I'll Marry You Tomorrow But Let's Honeymoon Tonite
15. I'm So miserable Without You, It's Like Having You
Here
16. I've Got Tears in My Ears From Lying On My Back
While I Cry Over You
17. If I Can't Be Number One In Your Life, Then Number
Two On You
18. If I Had Shot You When I Wanted To, I'd Be Out By
Now
19. Mama Get A Hammer (There's A Fly On Papa's Head)
20. My Head Hurts, My Feet Stink, And I Don't Love
Jesus
21. My Wife Ran Off With My Best Friend, and I Sure Do
Miss Him
22. Please Bypass this Heart
23. She Got The Ring and I Got The Finger
24. You're the Reason Our Kids Are So Ugly

just in time

I have been a car nut since my earliest memories.
Growing up in the 60's was a fine era to be a car nut and an adolescent. I recently bought this somewhat rare automobile as it was one of my favorites way back when. It is a 1967 Ford Thunderbird, fordor with suicide doors.

I have had some difficulties getting it to this point. I imported it from a seller in Canada and had it shipped down to Texas. It's been in the mechanics shop for the past 3 weeks just getting prepared for inspection. That's all done and it's now what is termed a daily driver. As with any older mechanical item, it will always need maintenance and repairs. Of course, I can say the same thing about myself.

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

for the Step 3 meeting yesterday morning -- it was just what I needed to carry me through the day

that my major turning point was 1715 days ago and occurred just when I needed it

that I am not a government bureaucrat

that I watched The Steve Miller Band on PBS last night -- great stuff!!

that my new, old car is finally on the road

Joy is the simplest form of gratitude.
-Karl Barth

another encore

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

that I am more aware of my triggers than ever before

for tools to deal with those triggers, when I choose to use them

that I think I'm making progress against a few of my character defects

for severe thunderstorms that do no damage

that my little shoulder strain from working out is very treatable

Bad habits are like a comfortable bed, easy to get into, but hard to get out of.

-Anonymous

Turn up the volume!

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

that to listen is to learn

that I usually hear what I want to hear

that I often hear what I need to hear

for people who listen twice as much as they talk;
maybe that's why we have 2 ears and 1 mouth

that The Astros are playing so well these past 2 weeks

Hearing is one of the body's five senses. But listening is an art.
-Frank Tyger

Turn left at the next corner, please

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

that I am just as enthusiastic about staying sober as I was about drinking

that staying sober is not a gray area for me; its either complete sobriety OR just give up and go get drunk

that you guys in AA taught me about needing a defense against having the first drink

for another very, very good 1st step meeting yesterday with a newcomer present (complete with a black eye and it didn't look good on her!)

for cats, coffee and computers

Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.
-Mother Teresa

On remembering ...

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

that Mom seemed to appreciate my visit yesterday

for a peaceful weekend

for a very successful fundraiser Saturday night @ Lambda

that we had another productive Lambda Board meeting and then elected 2 new members to the Board

that the lack of serenity I was experiencing last week disappeared on Friday, simply because of the passage of time AND the fact that I shared my feelings with others, thus taking away the power of those feelings

Growth in wisdom may be exactly measured by decrease in bitterness.
-Friedrich Nietzsche

On this Mother's Day ...

An ounce of mother is worth a pound of clergy.
-Spanish Proverb

-- this picture is from 1966; she was 43

At first thought, I would think this is not the best Mother's Day I've ever experienced. My Mom is confined to a bed in a comprehensive nursing home. She is in hospice, meaning she will die any day. She can't speak and can't eat (except through a feeding tube) and rarely seems to understand what I'm saying. I'm not even sure she always knows who I am.

I only visit her once each week now, down from 2 or 3 times each week. Our (my sister and I) only objective these days is to see that her final days are as comfortable as possible. So she's not in pain. Her lifelong belief in God has carried her for 85 years.

As a recovering alcoholic, my newfound spirituality has taught me how to accept her situation and in many ways, how to deal with it. I feel that my HP has allowed her to continue breathing for a reason. I don't know what that reason is unless it's to bring us closer together. That has certainly been the case. And I know she spent many years taking care of her son. Now it's my turn to pay some of that back. Being sober, I do that with no regrets.

So I'll go see her today and take her a card and some flowers. She may or may not know I'm there. But it's the right thing to do and I'll do it with joy.

My favorite monkey

THPIF

When the lightning flashes, this is not what you want to see……...
Taken Thursday night, April 3, 2008.
Lariat # 2 -- Sandridge Energy -- South of Ft Stockton , TX



todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

that a young person (23) chaired a meeting yesterday about money problems;
this is a HUGE trigger for many people in recovery, thus something well worth discussing in a meeting

for all your nice comments yesterday regarding my low self-esteem;
I appreciate hearing it, but my mind tells me that you're just being nice because that's what you're supposed to do

I gotta long way to go

my mind also tells me that no one, absolutely no one, wants to be anywhere near me. This, in turn, causes me to avoid all people except those I may come in contact with as I go through my daily routines

I gotta lot of work to do on ME

for Steps 6 & 7

Don't solve your problems, dissolve your problems--so that they should not recur again.
-Yogi Bhajan

I'm not Unique?

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

that I got to hear David D. tell his A.A. story yesterday; he is a former blogger from these here parts

for reminders of the effects of (perceived) rejection

for patience

that I'm going through another episode of very low self-esteem, but I know that soon it will pass

that I don't live near THIS sinkhole; it's devouring part of the town

that I went to a very exciting Astros game last night

No man was ever wise by chance.
-Seneca

mid-week stuff

THIS IS INDIA.

IT'S WHERE YOU CALL WHEN YOU HAVE A TECHNICAL PROBLEM WITH YOUR COMPUTER.




todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

that going to AA meetings consistently gives me the reminders I need to consistently live sober

that I am aware that I don't do well when I over-analyze a situation too much

that I know that I still have a lonnnnnggggg way to go before I can practice these principles in all my affairs

that I was paying attention in elementary school when we were taught to spell words correctly and perform simple arithmetic; it seems like younger generations have minimized the importance of these traits

that the Astros are lookin' much better these past 2 weeks

for Houston weather in the Spring


Everything has its beauty, but not everyone sees it.
-Confucius

todAAy

i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

for people who are willing to put themselves out there instead of just waiting for others to make things happen

for loyalty

for the nearly infinite number of ways that the practice of Step 10 can change my daily life (if I so choose)

that my legs are so much better today after a year of walking on a treadmill; I suffer from Peripheral Artery Disease, a result of 36 years of smoking 3 pack of cigarettes every damn day

that I am about 15 pounds lighter than a year ago

Leadership is doing what is right when no one is watching.
-George Van Valkenburg

beginning a new week ...

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

that you guys give me so much freedom -- to make my own choices about how much recovery I want

that I'm always given the opportunity to do the next right thing

that The Golddiggers (Lambda's fundraising group) will produce the annual Mr/Ms Lambda contest this Saturday night and as always, I get to assist in some small way

that I have no desire to watch Miley Cyrus - the lost interview

that I got to meet Zane's new dog, Mamie

Tell me whom you love, and I will tell you who you are.
-Houssaye

An amazing young man

This is just about too much to believe.

meet Jay's friends

Only $20 for Answers & Solutions

todAAy i Am grAAteful & thAAnkful

that my circumstances leave no doubt of my powerlessness over alcohol
and everything else)

that I was able to conceive of a Higher Power

that when I surrender, I find serenity

that if I could remove all my character defects and grind them up, they could provide enough power to illuminate a small city for a month (what?)

that I'm going to the Astros game tonight with a friend in recovery

ATTITUDE

"A positive attitude is perhaps more important at home than anywhere else. As spouses and parents, one of our most vital roles is to help those we love feel good about themselves."
-- Keith Harrell

"We simply assume that the way we see things is the way they really are or the way they should be. And our attitudes and behaviors grow out of these assumptions."
-- Stephen Covey

"…look at that word blame. It's just a coincidence that the last two letters spell the word me. But that coincidence is worth thinking about. Other people or unfortunate circumstances may have caused you to feel pain, but only you control whether you allow that pain to go on. If you want those feelings to go away, you have to say: 'It's up to me."
-- Arthur Freeman

"Optimists are right. So are pessimists. It's up to you to choose which you will be."
-- Harvey Mackay

another sober day

todAAy i Am grAAteful & thAAnkful

that I have been sober for 1700 days

for a good meeting about money/spending habits and how it can effect my sobriety and/or serenity

that Laurel K will be chairing the Wednesday noon speakers meetings in May

that I'm here today, sober and grateful

that some day later this year, all this election nonsense will be over
(for a little while, at least)

Two things a man should never be angry at: what he can help, and what he cannot help.
-Thomas Fuller

squarely in the middle

This is the first of many pictures I'll be posting of our new home. I am hoping it will be completed by late May.


todAAy i Am grAAteful & thAAnkful

for the concepts of Honesty, Open-Mindedness and Willingness

that I do my best to stay centered

for those times when I physically feel in a fit spiritual condition

to the people in recovery who go out of their way to get involved in extracirricular service activities

for the occasional use of common sense in all most of my affairs

that "it's a dog eat dog world, and I'm not wearing any underwear." a line from Blanche on The Golden Girls

If there is any kindness I can show, or any good thing I can do to any fellow human being, let me do it now, and not defer or neglect it, as I shall not pass this way again.
-William Penn

good view

the view from my seat at Minute Maid Park;
I get to sit here for 27 games this season


todAAy i Am grAAteful & thAAnkful

that I said a short prayer this morning, asking my HP to guide me throughout this day so that I can be the best person I can possibly be -- for today

that I ask for that guidance every morning

for lessons from other recovering drunks;

friends who suffer losses of friends and family have shown me how to handle that situation when it happens

that my sponsee chaired a wonderful meeting at noon yesterday, attended by someone at their first ever AA meeting

that my sponsor dropped by to see my new home-under-construction

Getting to know someone is not a task--it’s an art.
-Pierce LeBlanc

down the proverbial drain

todAAy i Am grAAteful & thAAnkful

that I'm no longer circling the drain

for a wonderful AA Birthday Night @ Lambda

that I want to stay sober, if for no other reason than to see what else is gonna happen (I heard this on a birthday night share)

for a quick Lambda Center Board of Directors meeting

for more evidence that I have to take care of myself before I can take care of anyone else

for a sponsee who is getting it

Here is a test to find whether your mission on earth is finished: If you're alive, it isn't.
-Richard Bach

20 things to remember

1. Faith is the ability to not panic.

2. If you worry, you didn't pray. If you prayed, don't worry.

3. As a child of God, prayer is kind of like calling home every day.

4. Blessed are the flexible, for they shall not be bent out of shape.

5. When we get tangled up in our problems, be still. God wants us to be still so He can untangle the knot.

6. Do the math. Count your blessings.

7. God wants spiritual fruit, not religious nuts.

8. Dear God: I have a problem. It's me.

9. Silence is often misinterpreted, but never misquoted.

10. Laugh every day - it's like inner jogging.

11. The most important things in your home are the people.

12. Growing old is inevitable, growing up is optional.

13. There is no key to happiness. The door is always open. Come on in.

14. A grudge is a heavy thing to carry.

15. He who dies with the most toys is still dead.

16. We do not remember days but moments. Life moves too fast so enjoy your precious moments.

17. Nothing is real to you until you experience it; otherwise it's just hearsay.

18. It's all right to sit on your pity pot every now and again. Just be sure to flush when you are done.

19. Surviving and living your life successfully requires courage. The goals and dreams you're seeking require courage and risk-taking. Learn from the turtle, it only makes progress when it sticks out its neck.

20. Be more concerned with your character than your reputation. Your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are. No matter the storm, when you are with God , there's always a rainbow waiting.

HAVE A GREAT SUNDAY!!

Saturday morning

I'm gay, so of course, I don't understand this video.

just hangin'

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

that I have hope

for a realisation that hope is made of having choices versus the days when I had run out of choices

to welcome a newly sober blogger, Sober Alcoholic Soldier

for a break (maybe) from the chaos in my life that has defined my waking hours over the past 2 or 3 weeks

for a firm offer and agreed upon sales price for my current townhouse; we're due to close at the end of May

that Hayden got home safely (a 6-hour flight)

"Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless."
-- Mother Teresa

(very) slow progress

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

that my Mom continues to hang in there, although she rarely seems to recognize me anymore

for problems and the challenges they bring forth to make life interesting

for solutions to those problems

that my low self-esteem issues have been at the forefront lately, forcing me to confront them

that I thought I grew up in a very normal home as a child;
I suppose I did compared to many others

WORRY/FEAR

"Consult not your fears but your hopes and your dreams. Think not about your frustrations, but about your unfulfilled potential. Concern yourself not with what you tried and failed in, but with what it is still possible for you to do."
-- Pope John XXIII

"The fear is worse than the pain."
-- Shannon Bahr

"Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold."
-- Helen Keller

"Anything I've ever done that ultimately was worthwhile initially scared me to death."
-- Betty Bender

a man of few words (today)

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

that I woke up sober this morning, just like the past 1691 days

for a wonderful tool box meeting

that the Astros' bats seem to be coming alive

that we have received an offer (very fair) on our townhouse and have made a counter-offer

To fulfill a dream, to be allowed to sweat over lonely labor, to be given the chance to create, is the meat and potatoes of life.
-Bette Davis

back in the saddle

I am not attempting ot make any type of political statement or judgement by using this cartoon. It is meant solely for humorous purposes. If you are offended, talk to your sponsor or psychiatrist.

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

that I'm just another Bozo on the bus

that a blogger friend is back after doing more research

for further proof that when I am able to just let things go, life is so much easier

that I rarely ponder longer than necessary over decisions that have to be made

that I can share my Astros tickets with others

"It seems to me that it's actually harder to invent excuses than it is to be successful."
-- Jeffrey Gitomer

"Don’t be content with doing only you duty. Do more than you duty. It’s the horse that finishes a neck ahead that wins the race."
-- Andrew Carnegie

starting a new week...

A walker noticed an old lady sitting on her front step, so he walked up to her and
said, "I couldn't help noticing how happy you look! What is your secret?"

"I smoke ten cigars a day," she said. "Before I go to bed, I smoke a nice big joint. Apart from that, I drink a whole bottle of Jack Daniels every week, and eat only junk food. On week-ends, I pop pills, get laid, and do no other exercise at all."
"That is absolutely amazing! How old are you?"
"Twenty-four," she replied.

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

for a good meeting on relapse; the thought came to me that my recovery is NOT dependent on your sobriety. Comments??

that I survived another day of living inside of my head; it can be a very nasty place

that PJ (It's a Girl Thing) celebrated her One Year AAniversary 8 days ago. I was a bit slow in realizing it. Better late than never.

for the honesty I find so plentiful in recovery;
drop by and visit An Alcoholic's Story.

for progress, here and there

that MC changed her blog-name to One Sober Alcoholic
(I'm not sure why I'm grateful for this, but let's act as if, eh?)


Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.
-Anais Nin

on this Sunday

I read this the other day and really liked it. Just passing it along...

I don't want to get to the end of my life and find that I lived just the length of it. I want to have lived the width of it as well.


Now, for the important stuff ---

Older than dirt

How many do you remember?

Head lights dimmer switches on the floor.
Ignition switches on the dashboard.
Heaters mounted on the inside of the fire wall.
Real ice boxes.
Pant leg clips for bicycles without chain guards.
Soldering irons you heat on a gas burner.
Using hand signals for cars without turn signals.


Older Than Dirt Quiz:

Count all the ones that you remember, NOT the ones you were told about! Your ratings at the bottom.

1. Blackjack chewing gum

2. Wax Coke-shaped bottles with colored sugar water

3. Candy cigarettes

4. Soda pop machines that dispensed glass bottles

5. Coffee shops or diners with tableside juke boxes

6. Home milk delivery in glass bottles with cardboard stoppers

7. Party lines

8. Newsreels before the movie

9. P.F. Flyers

10. Butch wax

11. Telephone numbers with a word prefix (OLive-6933)

12. Peashooters

13. Howdy Doody

14. 78 & 45 RPM records

15. S&H Green Stamps

16. Hi-fi's

17. Metal ice trays with lever

18. Mimeograph paper

19. Blue flashbulb

20. Packards

21. Roller skate keys

22. Cork popguns

23. Drive-ins

24. Studebakers

25. Wash tub wringers

If you remembered 0-5 = You're still young
If you remembered 6-10 = You are getting older
If you remembered 11-15 = Don't tell your age
If you remembered 16-25 = You're older than dirt!

Being me

Try THIS marketing test.


todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

for an interesting meeting yesterday about forgiveness -- I have a different perspective than most people (apparently). Since getting sober, my feeling is that the concept of forgiveness allows me to play God, doling it out at my discretion. ie: you deserve to be forgiven, so here ya go. OR -- you don't deserve it, so I won't forgive you. You've been too naughty. So, I just live as though everyone is trying to do their best and it's not up to me to play God.
Comments, please.

that we've had propspective buyer's looking at our house every day, although it's a real hassle keeping it this clean! LOL

for some needed rain this morning

Old age, to the unlearned, is winter; to the learned, it’s harvest time.
-Yiddish saying

today's list

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

that Kenny -- RECOVERY ROAD - celebrated his 4th year of sobriety yesterday. I had the fortunate opportunity to meet Kenny last July while I was in London. We met at a pub, of course.

that I had the opportunity to chair a meeting yesterday in which I read aloud There Comes a Time. This writing is about a fellow AA members' spiritual awakening. You can link to it by clicking on the title above and it is also linked on my sidebar. I think it's one of the most powerful writings I have read (yet) about recovery from this addictive disease.

that I rarely try to fool any of the people any of the time any more

that today is National blah blah blah Day. (click for more info)
Celebrate accordingly.

that Hayden and I are continuing to pick out stuff for the new house. Yesterday we picked the bathroom and kitchen fixtures. Today is supposed to be light fixtures and ceiling fans. We'll see.


Wisdom is the reward you get for a lifetime of listening when you’d have preferred to talk.
-Doug Larson

I'm not the lush I used to be

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for constant, conscious effort to practice Step 12; it goes against all my instincts

that I don't regret my past nor do I wish to shut the door on it

that my experiences, before and since sobriety, can be of help to another

for a really beautiful day in Houston, weather-wise and life-wise

that I have always been a very responsible person; Syd mentioned this yesterday and I certainly identified with it (check out his list of characteristics)

"Accept the challenges, so that you may feel the exhilaration of victory."
-- General George S. Patton

"Winners are people with a definite purpose in life."
-- Denis Waitley

"It seems to me that it's actually harder to invent excuses than it is to be successful."
-- Jeffrey Gitomer

"Don’t be content with doing only you duty. Do more than you duty. It’s the horse that finishes a neck ahead that wins the race."
-- Andrew Carnegie

as it is now ...

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that my playing field is more level than it used to be

that I went to a meeting I have not attended in a couple of years; a Beginner's Meeting, although there were many people there with more years of sobriety than I

that it's getting easier for me to accept people as they are

that my mortgage broker and I ironed out an acceptable deal

Too many people spend money they haven't earned to buy things they don't want, to impress people they don't like.
-Will Rogers

back to ...

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for a good reminder that I probably won't fall off the edge if I stay in the middle

that I attended a workshop @ Lambda about Living Sober: Avoiding Relapse. It was presented well and followed by a great BBQ dinner. The dinner was followed by 3 speakers; with 29, 32 and 32 years of sobriety, respectively.

for a peaceful and non-busy weekend; I needed the break

that I am back to normal computing power

for Houston weather in April

Never stand begging for that which you have the power to earn.
-Miguel de Cervantes

*** make sure to check out the video below

Check this out

a legal perspective

A lawyer purchased a box of very rare and expensive cigars, then insured them against, among other things, fire. Within a month, having smoked his entire stockpile of these great cigars and without yet having made even his first premium payment on the policy the lawyer filed a claim against the insurance company. In his claim, the lawyer stated the cigars were lost "in a series of small fires."

The insurance company refused to pay, citing the obvious reason, that the man had consumed the cigars in the normal fashion. The lawyer sued ...... and WON!

Delivering the ruling, the judge agreed with the insurance company that the claim was frivolous. The judge stated nevertheless, that the lawyer held a policy from the company, which it had warranted that the cigars were insurable and also guaranteed that it would insure them against fire, without defining what is considered to be "unacceptable fire" and was obligated to pay the claim.

Rather than endure lengthy and costly appeal process, the insurance company accepted the ruling and paid $15,000 to the lawyer for his loss of the cigars lost in the "fires".

NOW FOR THE BEST PART...

After the lawyer cashed the cheque, the insurance company had him arrested on 24 counts of ARSON!!! With his own insurance claim and testimony from the previous case being used against him, the lawyer was convicted of intentionally burning his insured property and was sentenced to 24 months in jail and a $24,000 fine.

sit back and relax, please

Happy Birthday, Lambda Center

This weekend, Lambda Center, here in Houston, celebrates its 30th year of operation. It's a big deal because hundreds of lives have been saved here, including yours truly. It's a big deal because this building is wholly supported by contributions from alcoholics and drug addicts. Today's operating costs often exceed $9000 per month. It's a big deal because there are more than 40 gay-oriented AA, Al-Anon and CMA meetings each week. And it's a big deal because it may be the finest such facility in the world. If you're in town tomorrow, please join us from 4pm -9pm.

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

for the gifts of being present

for an extremely busy, yet peaceful week

for a really nice day, mostly spent with my better other half

I am using my second new computer this week. I only got it partially configured last night and don't yet have my old files and folders loaded. This one has sound and everything else a young woman older guy wants to have.

Imagination is the highest kite one can fly.
-Lauren Bacall

for eyes only

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that I got to hear a sponsee tell his story (the very short version) yesterday

for the miracles I see and feel each day

for necessary reminders that my sobriety and happiness are not dependent upon another human being

that I have no plans to travel via air any time in the near future -- what a mess!

that my internet problem is fixed but now my new computer has no sound -- at all! If it ain't one thing ...

for my high-class problems LOL

Service is the rent you pay for room on this planet.
-Shirley Chisholm

in the middle

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for the gorgeous weather in Houston this time of year

that I am sober and aware of my environment

that my sponsor and I went to the Astros game last night; we lost

that the papers are all signed and the tiles, colors and countertops are all decided upon at our new home; completion date set for late May

*** I'm still having major problems with my internet connection. I can't open my email for the past 2 days and it's really stacking up.

There is nothing better than the encouragement of a good friend.
-Katharine Butler Hathaway

blackouts

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that we read "Jim's Story" this morning at the 6:30am meeting; it reminded me of my many years of blackout drinking

that I have a choice - I can either change my attitude OR I can change my sobriety date

I have internet problems, so this is it for today.


TIME MANAGEMENT

"Time has a way of getting away from us, because we never have a grip on it during the day…"
-- Doug Firebaugh

"Learn to use ten minutes intelligently. It will pay you huge dividends."
-- William A. Irwin

"Lost time is never found again."
-- Benjamin Franklin

"Don’t mistake movement for achievement. It’s easy to get faked out by being busy. The questions is: Busy doing what?"
-- Jim Rohn

Onward

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

that there is a solution to every problem

that the light at the end of the tunnel is rarely an oncoming train

that it's BILL'S first sober birthday -- Yeaaaa!!! Bill !!

that I too got a new computer but it's not as pretty as MC's;

it's a Sony AR730 laptop and it's sooooooooooooooo fast!

that The Astros begin their 81-game home season tonight here in Houston. I am fortunate enough to have tickets to 27 games this season. I will be forcing Scott W to attend a game this year, even if his hands have to be tied behind his back.

"Few things help an individual more than to place responsibility upon him, and to let him know that you trust him."
-- Booker T. Washington

Time rarely stands still

THE LAW OF FORCED EFFICIENCY

by Brian Tracy

This law says that, "There is never enough time to do everything, but there is always enough time to do the most important thing."

You Always Find the Time:
When you run out of time and the consequences for non-completion of a key task or project can be really serious, you always seem to find the time to get it done, often at the very last minute. You start early, you stay late and you drive yourself to complete the job rather than to face the negative consequences that would follow if you didn't get it completed within the time limit. Rule: "There will never be enough time to do everything you have to do."

You Are Already Overwhelmed:
The fact is that the average person today is working at close to 100% of their capacity. And the jobs and responsibilities just keep piling up. Everyone has stacks of reading material they still have to go through. One study concluded recently that the average executive has 300-400 hours of reading and projects backlogged at home and at the office. What this means is that you will never be caught up. Get that out of your mind. All you can hope for is to be on top of your most important responsibilities. The others will just have to wait.

On another note:
I hated to hear this morning of the death of Charlton Heston. Click here for more info.

Saturday morning

Have you ever wondered where the phrase, "You Gotta Be Shittin' Me," came from?

Well, it just so happens to have originated through the Father of Our Country, way back when George Washington was crossing the Delaware River with his troops. There were 33 (remember this number) in Washington's boat. It was extremely dark and storming furiously and the water was tossing them about. Finally, Washington grabbed Corporal Peters (remember this name) and stationed him at the front of the boat with a lantern. He ordered him to keep swinging it, so they could see where they were heading.

Corporal Peters, through driving rain and cold, continued swinging the lantern back and forth, back and forth. Then a big gust of wind and a wave hit and threw Corporal Peters and his lantern into the Delaware. Washington and his troops searched for nearly an hour trying to find Corporal Peters, but to no avail. All of them felt terrible, for the Corporal had been one of their favorites. Sometime later, Washington and his troops landed on the other side, wet and totally exhausted. He rallied the troops and told them that they must go on. Another hour later, one of his men said, "General, I see lights ahead."

They trudged toward the lights and came upon a huge house. What they didn't know, was that this was a house of ill repute hidden in the forest to serve all who came. General Washington pounded on the door, his men crowding around him. The door swung open, and much to his surprise there stood a beautiful woman. A huge smile came across her face, to see so many men standing there.

Washington was the first to speak, "Madam, I am General George Washington and these are my men. We are tired, wet, exhausted, and desperately need warmth and comfort."

Again, the Madam looked at all the men standing there, and with a broad smile on her face, said, "Well, General, you have come to the right place. We can surely give you warmth and comfort. How many men do you have?"

Washington replied, "Well, Madam, there are 32 of us without Peters."

And the Madam said, "You gotta be shittin' me."

It's Friday, for what that's worth.

This has been one of my toughest weeks in dealing with life since I got sober in 2003. I suppose I could find all kinds of reasons, but they would sound more like excuses. It probably boils down to my fear of this huge mortgage hanging over my head. I need to get used to it.
However ...

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

that I haven't had a thought about drinking

for overwhelming proof that I have a mental disease

that I know it will all pass, eventually

to be aware of how much I dislike confrontations

that today is 3-meeting Friday for me (3 AA meetings by 1pm)

that our townhouse officially went on the market yesterday; I think it's on 3 local real estate websites. We had several inquiries during the afternoon just from passersby, so that's encouraging.

Kindness makes a fellow feel good, whether it’s being done to him or by him.
-Frank A. Clark

have a seat; take a load off ...

I really don't have much to say, but ...

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

that I am healthy

for the chance to be better than I was yesterday (that won't take much effort)

that I have the opportunity to learn from my mistakes

that I've always been one of the luckiest people in the world -- I know this from my many years of travel to places that many of you have never heard of.

that our money negotiations should conclude today regarding the new townhouse; I'll let you know more tomorrow

If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow.
-Chinese Epigram

parenthetical

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that my stress-level shall pass (I have too much on my plate, but I put it all there, so I can't blame anyone [damnit!]). I am aware that stress is a product of my reaction to circumstances, not the circumstances themselves. Yeah, yeah.

that even though I've been a bit short-tempered the past few days, the world has continued to revolve (fortunately)

that I can at least be aware that I no longer have a consistent ability to multi-task (it used to be a specialty but I think I destroyed all the necessary brain cells)

for my remaining brain cell and my intention to protect it (whatever it takes)

that I woke up sober (again)

"Always demanding the best of oneself, living with honor, devoting one’s talents and gifts to the benefits of others - these are the measures of success that endure when material things have passed away."
-- Gerald Ford

"Success is doing your own thing, for the benefit of others."
-- Denis Waitley

No fool here (at least not today)

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I am pressed for time again today, so let's keep this short...

for an extremely busy, but peaceful day where I did not get overwhelmed

that my CPA will visit me today and we will review and discuss taxes and then I'll hand over hundreds of pages of papers for him to make sense of

that if the financial negotiations are successful today, we'll have the opportunity to choose our new homes' interior; wall textures, colors, fixtures, tiles etc...). We're even moving a couple of walls around and adding a balcony.

"In the Midst of movement and chaos, keep stillness inside of you."
-- Deepak Chopra

"If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself but to your own estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment."
-- Marcus Aurelius

"I am more and more convinced that our happiness or our unhappiness depends far more on the way we meet the events of life than on the nature of those events themselves."
-- Karl Wilhelm Von Humboldt

"Stress comes from within; it is your reaction to circumstances, not the circumstances themselves."
-- Brian Tracy