Sunday, March 11, 2007


I am reluctant as to how many details to throw out there on the internet. I'm contemplating making some changes in my life; changes that are major - to me. I still need to talk to the people who are close to me, the ones who know me and whose opinions and advice I respect.
Sobriety and recovery has taught me that I don't have to make those big decisions today and I don't have to make them alone.

I realize that my vagueness may leave you with questions. I also know that you'll respect my space and not ask me what in the hell I am talking about.

One of the wonderful rules-of-thumb that I have at my disposal is this ...
If an A.A. sponsee came to me with the same, exact set of circumstances and asked me for my advice, what would I tell him/her?

I am writing about this only because I may want to have some sort of record of the experience in the future; something to look back on and re-read about my own thinking/frame of mind. It's also entirely possible that I may mention nothing else about it.



Well if it is a sex change let me tell you being a woman is just as difficult as being a man.
In all seriousness....whatever it may be I know you will do the right thing.
Sending hugs your way,

Pam said...

last night at a meeting, a guy was talking about how he used to fire off emails to people in the heat of the moment, and it would always come back to bite him in the ass. So now, he has a buddy that proofs all his emails and tells him if he should sit on it for 24 hours first. I think checking our motives on big life decisions should be like this...."Hey let me run something past you, and you tell me if I'm crazy or not"
It truly is a WE deal.

Mary Christine said...

Hey Daave, what the hell is going on? - just kidding.

lushgurl said...

Yeah, sometimes change is good, sometimes not so good. But you are so right, whatever you are going through, you are not alone!
I know you'll choose what's right for you, and we are all here for you when you need to share!

Syd said...

I'm contemplating major changes too but am weighing all the options. Recovery is about changes, some we like and some others will hate. I think that we all know what we want to do, it's just getting it done.

Noor Azman Othman GBE said...

I'm sure you know what's best for you, dAAve.

Like your former post, I better stay grounded!

Scott said...

hey, you know what you have to do, and I am confident you'll do it! I love that we're no longer all alone in the world once we enter AA.

I'll be praying for you to have a peaceful decision-making process,and that you'll find God's will among your options, whatever they may be.

Good luck my friend!

Patrick said...

Greetings Higher Powered
I wonder if this might interest you:

The 12 Steps Down To Hell

I imagine 12 Step recovery programmes are a slow slide into the jaws of Satan. I was involved with this evil “satanic cult” for over 30 years but was saved through the power of Jesus Christ. He directed me to a therapist who was into “real” recovery, not the mind destroying, soul destroying, cult, which is AA. I have met two Steppers recently & I imagine they are completely devoid of any emotion or insight. I feel pain because both these men are decent human beings but AA has destroyed their indivuality & they have no idea how to relate apart from expounding AA propaganda. I imagine Hell to be a continuous flow of AA meetings without any light at the end of the tunnel because one never recovers'. I beg you people who are in 12 Step programmes, to get out before it is too late.

How does one recover when one is handing one’s power over to AA. The 12 Steps were written out of Wilson’s head, he certainly didn’t get his guidance from the Bible. I imagine he was an agent of Satan & he & Smith’s “cult religion” has filled millions of Steppers with their anti - Christ propaganda.

Step Three of AA is "Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood him." While many in the Oxford Group placed their faith in Jesus Christ as Lord and Saviour, there was much leeway given. Shoemaker, a leader of the Oxford Group, says, "The true meaning of faith is self-surrender to God." He further explains:
Surrender to whatever you know about Him, or believe must be the truth about Him. Surrender to Him, if necessary, in total ignorance of Him. Far more important that you touch Him than that you understand Him at first. Put yourself in His hands. Whatever He is, as William James said, He is more ideal than we are. Make the leap. Give yourself to Him.
Aside from capitalizing the "H," which Christians do to refer to the God of the Bible, "Him" could refer to any god of one’s own making.

Can you see what is happening to you? Ask Jesus to take control of you lives, read the Bible & instead of 12 Step groups go to Bible study groups. Burn your Big Book or use it as toilet paper. Can you see the difference: With The 12 Steps, you never recover but with John 3:16 you are guaranteed Eternal Salvation. The “ball is in your court”

Peace Be With You

PS: I am a recovered alcoholic with over 21 years of sobriety

AAwoken said...

Requisite snot flying from nostrils after reading JJ's response.

Shannon said...

he pretty much posted the same thing on my blog