Monday, December 31, 2012

The year in review ...


Sunday, December 30, 2012

How an Old Timer Greets a Newcomer

His name is Bill. He has wild hair, wears a T-shirt with holes in it, jeans, and no shoes. This was literally his wardrobe for the past four years of life.  He is brilliant.  Kind of profound and very, very bright.  He became a alcoholic while attending college. Things have
only gone down hill since.

Across the street from the campus is a well-dressed, very conservative A.A. club. They want to develop a meeting for the students but are not sure how to go about it.

One day Bill decides to go there. He walks in with no shoes, jeans, his T-shirt, and wild hair.  The meeting has already started and so Bill starts looking around the room for a seat.

The room is completely packed and he can't find a seat. By now, the well dressed people are really looking a bit uncomfortable, but no one says anything.

Bill gets closer and closer and closer to the front of the room, and when he realizes there are no seats, he just squats down right on the carpet.

By now the people are really uptight, and the tension in the air is thick.  About this time, the evening's speaker realizes that from way at the back of the meeting, an "old timer" is slowly making his way toward Bill.

Now the "old timer" is in his eighties, and has silver-gray hair, and a three-piece suit. A spiritual man, very elegant, very dignified, very courtly. He walks with a cane and, as he starts walking toward this boy everyone is saying to themselves that you can't blame him for what he's going to do.

How can you expect a man of his age and of his background to understand some college kid on the floor?

It takes a long time for the man to reach the boy.
The meeting is utterly silent except for the clicking of the old man's cane. All eyes are focused on him.  You can't even hear anyone breathing. The speaker can't even continue the meeting until the "old timer" does what he has to do.
And now they see this elderly man drop his cane on the floor. With great difficulty, he lowers himself and sits down next to Bill and welcomes him so he doesn't feel outcast and alone.  Everyone chokes up with emotion.

When the speaker gains control, he says,

"What I'm about to say, you will never remember.
What you have just seen, you will never forget."
"Be careful how you live. You may be the only Big Book some people will ever read".

Friday, December 28, 2012


I didn't get around to posting this morning and only now just realized it.
All is well, all is good.
And for that, I am grateful.

Thursday, December 27, 2012


Did any of you guys think yesterday was Monday all day?  My head could not get past the fact it was Wednesday.

todAAy I AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

that I love to go to AA meetings.  They keep me aware of many of my assets and liabilities.  I'm not sure if so-called "normal" folks have this stuff available to them, especially on a regular basis.  I know that I didn't have the opportunity of awareness when I was an active-drinking alcoholic.
So, if I have to pick one gift of sobriety, I think awareness may be my answer.
Of course, freedom and choices come in near the top of that list, but awareness is tops for me.

Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.
- Dale Carnegie

Wednesday, December 26, 2012

Being silly, with issues

todAAy I AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

for the recovery fellowship with which I am involved.  They are many wonderful people, all of whom have mental issues.  Some more serious than others.  Not that I'm taking anyone's inventory.  LOL

that we had a wonderful Christmas potluck dinner yesterday at my recovery center, attended by 60 or 70 people with mental issues.  Some more serious than others.  But the turkeys were great.

for the 20 people that showed up at the 6:30am meeting on Christmas morning.  Some of them have some serious mental issues. 

Things turn out best for people who make the best out of the way things turn out.

Tuesday, December 25, 2012

Ho! Ho! Ho!

todAAy I AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

for all the great memories of Christmas mornings when I was a kid

for all the great memories of Christmas mornings

for all the great memories

I bet you have some too.  What's your favorite memory as a child on Christmas morning?

When we recall Christmas past, we usually find that the simplest things – not the great occasions – give off the greatest glow of happiness.
- Bob Hope

Monday, December 24, 2012

The Day Before

todAAy I AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

that I know how to not start drinking.  It has almost nothing to do with me or my willpower.  Instead, my Higher Power is what I must rely on to not drink alcohol again.  Personally, my HP makes it quite easy for me.  I just have to do a few simple things (preferably daily) and shazammmm!
I don't drink.
that I have no budget this year to buy Christmas presents.  Thus, I didn't go shopping.  Thus, I didn't suffer the crowds.

In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.
- Martin Luther King Jr

Sunday, December 23, 2012

Saturday, December 22, 2012

Three Men

Three men died on Christmas Eve and were met by Saint Peter at the pearly gates.
'In honor of this holy season' Saint Peter said, 'You must each possess something that symbolizes Christmas to get into heaven.'
The Englishman fumbled through his pockets and pulled out a lighter. He flicked it on.
'It's a candle', he said.
'You may pass through the pearly gates' Saint Peter said.
The Scotsman reached into his pocket and pulled out a set of keys. He shook them and said, 'They're bells.'
Saint Peter said 'You may pass through the pearly gates'.
The Irishman started searching desperately through his pockets and finally pulled out a pair of women's panties.
St. Peter looked at the man with a raised eyebrow and asked, 'And just what do those symbolize?'
The paddy replied, 'These are Carols.'

Friday, December 21, 2012

One is the loneliest number

see the owl?

today I am grateful & thankful

for some good old Step One reading in the 12x12 .........
"Alcohol, now become the rapacious creditor, bleeds us of all self-sufficiency and all will to resist its demands."
"By going back in our own drinking histories, we could show that years before we realized it we were out of control, that our drinking even then was no mere habit, that it was indeed the beginning of a fatal progression."
"... few people will sincerely try to practice the A.A. program unless they have hit bottom.  For practicing A.A.'s remaining eleven Steps means the adoption of attitudes and actions that almost no alcoholic who is still drinking can dream of taking.  Who wishes to be rigorously honest and tolerant?  Who wants to confess his faults to another and make restitution for harm done?  Who cares anything about a Higher Power, let alone meditation and prayer?"
Have a lovely day, y'all.

The greatest pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do.

Thursday, December 20, 2012


see the owl?

today I am grateful & thankful

for the "p's"
that I got to hear my friend Scott W (some of you know his former blog, Attitude of Gratitude) qualify his story yesterday
Usually when people are sad, they don't do anything. They just cry over their condition. But when they get angry, they bring about a change.

Wednesday, December 19, 2012

I can't hide any more.

see the owl?

today I am grateful & thankful

for these excerpts from the Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th edition, pages 350-352) ...
"I tried to hide my drinking by going places where I was unlikely to see anyone I knew."
I had "excuses for trips in order to drink without restraint."
"Never having enough, always craving more, the obsession for alcohol gradually began to dominate all my activities, particularly while traveling.  Drink planning became more important than any other plans."
Those concepts describe me way too much.
Only the wisest and the stupidest of men never change.

Tuesday, December 18, 2012

just a little bit to get started

today I am grateful & thankful

for less than good days.  They make the other days even better.

for more willingness than ever before.  To do what, you ask?  Whatever it takes.

that I miss Pammie and her wonderful sense of humor.  MC and I have been reading her blog and knowing her for about 7 or 8 years and now, after an illness, she seems to have stopped posting.

Knowledge talks, wisdom listens.

Monday, December 17, 2012

My mind is out to kill me

today I am grateful & thankful

that I have a bunch of friends.  It's good to remember this when I feel like isolating.  That's how I felt this weekend.  I wanted to just stay home and talk to no one.  That's what I wanted to do.
Instead, I ...

... went to 2 AA meetings on Saturday and 1 on Sunday
... ate breakfast both mornings with friends from the AA meetings
... helped a new friend in recovery look for a good, used vehicle (this took 3 hours of driving around)
... had dinner on Saturday with 6 people from the program
... attended a fundraiser at my recovery center
... attended a memorial service for a program friend who died of a heart attack last week

My mind is out to kill me.

A friend is someone who is there for you when he'd rather be somewhere else.

Sunday, December 16, 2012


An iceberg's seismic breakup, believed to be the largest ever caught on camera, is described by the person who filmed it as the equivalent of watching "Manhattan... breaking apart in front of your eyes."
Filmmaker Jason Balog recorded the spectacular calving event while making his documentary "Chasing Ice" about global climate change. He had set up his camera on Greenland's Ilulissat Glacier, which has retreated approximately 10 miles in the last 12 years.
Balog figures almost 2 cubic miles worth of the Ilulissat broke up over the course of 75 minutes.
"Pieces of ice were shooting up out of the ocean 600 feet and then falling," he says in the film, which contains bass-thumping audio that makes it almost as impressive to listen to as watch.
"The only way you can really put it into scale with human reference is if you imagine Manhattan, and all of a sudden all of those buildings just start to rumble and quake and peel off and just fall over and fall over and roll around."

Saturday, December 15, 2012

How to start a fight (part 3)

After retiring, I went to the Social Security office to apply for Social Security.
The woman behind the counter asked me for my driver's License to verify my age.
I looked in my pockets and realized I had left my wallet at
home. I told the woman that I was very sorry, but I would have
to go home and come back later.
The woman said, 'Unbutton your shirt'.
So I opened my shirt revealing my curly silver hair.
She said, 'That silver hair on your chest is proof enough for
me' and she processed my Social Security application.
When I got home, I excitedly told my wife about my experience at
the Social Security office. She said, 'You should have dropped
your pants. You might have gotten disability too.'
And then the fight started...
My wife was standing nude, looking in the bedroom mirror.
She was not happy with what she saw and said to me,
"I feel horrible; I look old, fat and ugly. I really need you
to pay me a compliment.'
I replied, "Your eyesight's damn near perfect."
And then the fight started........
I rear-ended a car this morning...the start of a REALLY bad day!
The driver got out of the other car, and he was a DWARF!!
He looked up at me and said 'I am NOT Happy!'
So I said, 'Well, which one ARE you then?'
That's how the fight started.

Friday, December 14, 2012

Have a nice Friday ...

todAAy I AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

that I'm just a beginner (at so many things), but my life experiences have gotten me this far

that my bad shoulder (rotator cuff) that I wrote about last week has healed.  The cortisone meds seem to have done the trick.  Yea me!

for a little fundraiser we do every year at my recovery center.  We call it "'twas the Night Before Christmas".  We'll do it tomorrow night.  It's basically a gift exchange event and it's soooooooooo much fun and laughter.  There are usually 60-80 people in attendance and all go home happy.

The two most common elements in the world are hydrogen and stupidity.

Thursday, December 13, 2012

not just words

todAAy I AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

for life, sobriety, recovery, friends, serenity, knowledge, awareness, courage, integrity, willingness, honesty, consistency and many more concepts and words.

that the holidays will be over in a couple of weeks

for my friend Mary Christine and all the things she teaches me

The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing.

Wednesday, December 12, 2012

grins and smiles on 12.12.12

today I AAm grAAteful & thankful

for so many little things that can occur during the course of a day that make me smile

that no one has told me to "smile" since I've been sober.  In my former life as an active drunk, I could not tell you how many times I would be somewhere (often in a bar) and somebody would come up to me and say, "smile".  I never thought I wasn't smiling, but obviously, I walked around with a frown on my face.

that I have the chance today (and every day) to be of service to others

Happy are those who dream dreams and are ready to pay the price to make them come true.
~~ unknown

Tuesday, December 11, 2012

Let me hear from you ...

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

for this little tool -- One of my mentors declares that he is always in acceptance of whatever may happen in an AA meeting.  He says they are God's meeting and it's his job to just sit and observe.  He shares if asked.  But if a meeting is being run the "wrong" way or is something else is happening that isn't right, my friend just observes.  Silently. 
I have learned to do the same thing.  It can be painful to watch a chairperson have a meltdown during a meeting or to crosstalk or say otherwise inappropriate words.  But it's not my job to correct the situation.  If I do, then I am saying I know what's best for the group and I'll soon owe the group an amends.

Discuss ...........

Friends are those rare people who ask how you are and then wait for the answer.  
~Author Unknown

Monday, December 10, 2012


todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

for the easy way.  Drinking every day to oblivion was some damn hard work.

that I seem to have such an easy time to accept most things around me.  However, my domestic life remains a constant challenge.  I'm not sure why.

that we're getting some cooler weather beginning this morning.  We've had 80+ degree temperatures all last week.

If drinking is interfering with your work, you're probably a heavy drinker.  If work is interfering with your drinking, you're probably an alcoholic.  
~Author Unknown

Sunday, December 09, 2012

Trust issue?

One gutsy game warden .............

click here

Saturday, December 08, 2012

How to start a fight (part 2)

My wife sat down next to me as I was flipping channels.
She asked, "What's on TV?"
I said, "Dust."
And then the fight started...
Saturday morning I got up early, quietly dressed, made my
lunch, and slipped quietly into the garage. I hooked up the
boat up to the van and proceeded to back out into a torrential
downpour. The wind was blowing 50mph, so I pulled back into the
garage, turned on the radio, and discovered that the weather
would be bad all day.
I went back into the house, quietly undressed, and slipped back
into bed. I cuddled up to my wife's back; now with a different
anticipation, and whispered, "The weather out there is terrible."
My loving wife of 5 years replied, "And, can you believe my
stupid husband is out fishing in that?"
And that's how the fight started...
My wife was hinting about what she wanted for our upcoming anniversary.
She said, "I want something shiny that goes from 0 to 150 in about 3 seconds."
I bought her a bathroom scale.
And then the fight started.......

Friday, December 07, 2012

I keep comin' back

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thankful

for a new sponsee I'm working with and the commonalities we seem to have.  I can't speak for him, but I really identify with many of his thought processes.   Oddly enough,  I'm 58 years old and gay.  He's 32 years old and straight.  Yet we are cut from the same mold. 

that I will take so many recovery tools with me as I go through this day. 

that I've been sober for 9+ years and that today is the 8th anniversary of this blog.  This is the 3,484th posting on this blog in 2,920 days.  If I'm nothing else, at least I'm consistent.  LOL

You've gotta have hope.  Without hope life is meaningless.  Without hope life is meaning less and less. 
~Author Unknown

Thursday, December 06, 2012

Hope or Despair?

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

for a poignant reminder how good my entire life has been when I hear what some of my friends have lived through

for medication.  My should improved from about 30% usefulness on Tuesday to maybe 60-70% on Wednesday.  I am amazed.  The Cortisone  medication is doing its job.  I officially have rotator cuff tendonitis.  All blood work and x-rays looked good. 

I took 2 of the Vicodin on Tuesday and don't plan on using them again.  At least, not for this situation.  I didn't like their effect.  Sluggishness.  Me no like.  If I need them after a surgery or something, I'll face that when it comes up.

If you knew that hope and despair were paths to the same destination, which would you choose? 
~Robert Brault

Wednesday, December 05, 2012

Ouch! My shoulder hurts.

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

for serenity.  I have a condition called acute rotator cuff tendinitis which has flared up like never before.  I went to the doctor yesterday because the night before I could not sleep for more than a few minutes at a time due to the pain.  I also experienced heavy sweating during the night.  So this was a new doctor (to me) because my regular doctor is out of town.  After an exam and some questions and answers, he not only wanted an x-ray, but prescribed me some Vicodin for the pain.  Now, please understand that while I am an alcoholic, I rarely used pills or narcotics after the age of 18.  I reminded the doctor that I am an alcoholic-in-recovery (it should have been in my chart somewhere) and he thanked me for mentioning that.  He asked me when my sobriety date is; after I told him, he told me his sobriety date which was 3 months after my date, back in 2003.  We chuckled over this and he told me to please throw away the pain medication if it proved to be a trigger. Of course, I said I would.

Later in the day, I realized that if they were a trigger, I might not want to throw them away.  But I've told a few people close to me that I'm taking them, just so I will be more accountable.

I'm also going to be taking a strict regimen of Cortisone tablets to help the healing with the shoulder.  Hopefully, I'll get the results of the lab work and the x-ray later this morning.  My mind tells me that I have some incurable cancer and will be in hospice by 5pm.  If that is the case, I may have to retire this blog.  Otherwise I'll report back to you tomorrow.

He who has made a thousand things and he who has made none, both feel the same desire:  to make something. 
~Antonio Porchia

Tuesday, December 04, 2012

G'day .............

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

that I haven't found a "trigger" to return to drinking.  Yet. (it's not like I'm looking for one, though)

to realize that if I ever do return to drinking, it will most likely be due to NOT practicing Step 6

for new behavior to old situations

Ironically, making a statement with words is the least effective method. 
~Grey Livingston

Monday, December 03, 2012

Welcome to December

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

for the whole concept of taking action rather than talking intentions

for making some progress with my computer situation; I'm not very adept at setting thing sup, so I waited on someone who knows what they're doing.  I've had to go a whole week (a whole week!) without having Word or any other Microsoft products available.  But it happened for me last night and for that, I'm very grateful.

for little things

Do it, and then you will feel motivated to do it. 
~Zig Ziglar

Sunday, December 02, 2012

The Aftermath

This is wild - it shows before and after shots of the Shore by moving your mouse over the picture. WILD!!
The true devastation of the Jersey Shore.
In each picture frame there is a black line, if you drag it back and forth across the picture it will show you before and after.

click New Jersey shore

Saturday, December 01, 2012

How to start a fight ...

One year, I decided to buy my mother-in-law a cemetery plot as a Christmas gift...
The next year, I didn't buy her a gift.
When she asked me why, I replied,
"Well, you still haven't used the gift I bought you last year!"
And that's how the fight started.....
My wife and I were watching Who Wants To Be A Millionaire while
we were in bed.
I turned to her and said, 'Do you want to have sex?'
'No,' she answered. I then said,
'Is that your final answer?'
She didn't even look at me this time, simply saying, 'Yes..'
So I said, "Then I'd like to phone a friend."
And that's when the fight started...
I took my wife to a restaurant. The waiter, for some reason, took my order first.
"I'll have the rump steak, rare, please."
He said, "Aren't you worried about the mad cow?"
"Nah, she can order for herself."
And that's when the fight started.....
My wife and I were sitting at a table at her high school
reunion, and she kept staring at a drunken man swigging his
drink as he sat alone at a nearby table.
I asked her, "Do you know him?"
"Yes", she sighed, "He's my old boyfriend. I understand he took to drinking
right after we split up those many years ago, and I hear he hasn't been sober since."
"My God!" I said, "Who would think a person could go on celebrating that long?"
And then the fight started...
When our lawn mower broke and wouldn't run, my wife kept hinting
to me that I should get it fixed. But, somehow I always had
something else to take care of first, the shed, the boat,
making beer.. Always something more important to me. Finally she
thought of a clever way to make her point.
When I arrived home one day, I found her seated in the tall
grass, busily snipping away with a tiny pair of sewing
scissors. I watched silently for a short time and then went into
the house. I was gone only a minute, and when I came out again
I handed her a toothbrush. I said, "When you finish cutting the
grass, you might as well sweep the driveway."
The doctors say I will walk again, but I will always have a limp.

Friday, November 30, 2012

Friday thoughts

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

for new reactions to old situations.  I think this may be one of the great gifts of recovery.  If I didn't learn how to react differently to some old stuff, my recovery would be sorely lacking.

for commitments -- service commitments and personal commitments

that I don't have any particular plans for the weekend, but I'll bet by the time it's finished, I will have stayed busy.

I can live for two months on a good compliment. 
~Mark Twain

Thursday, November 29, 2012

not much to say

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

for those who came before me and paved the way

that we're all so different, yet so similar

that I can admit that I'm just drawing a blank this morning.  Y'all have a lovely day.  Unless you choose otherwise.

The one charm of the past is that it is the past. 
~Oscar Wilde

Wednesday, November 28, 2012

Now Read This !!

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

that my recovery program has not lessened yet (after 9+ years).  It's increased by leaps and bounds in the service work area.   
that I still love going to AA meetings
that there's only a couple of people in AA that I don't like.  That's only because I see them as such hypocrites.  But they are my teachers.  I've always heard that if you like everyone in AA, you haven't gone to enough meetings.  I could not disagree more.  My newly-found, sober ability to like people is a direct result of working the steps and practicing the principles.

Nothing diminishes anxiety faster than action. 
~Walter Anderson 

Tuesday, November 27, 2012

in a good place

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

to know, absolutely, that I will make some mistakes today even though I ask for guidance from my HP to do the next right thing as I go through my day.  You see, I know I can't be perfect.  But the person I am supposed to be will learn and progress.

for a new sponsee (for me) who has a bit over 2 years sober.  His recovery seems to be in good shape and he has a fair knowledge of the steps.  We had a good talk last night and I got to know him much better.  I really look forward to working with him.

Never mistake motion for action. 
~Ernest Hemingway

Monday, November 26, 2012

Cyber Monday

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thankful

that I've been spiritually recharged during the past few days.  I wasn't drained in the least bit, but I'm all charged up again.

for the realization that by my prayer and meditation, certain thoughts come to me that I would otherwise never have.  As a general rule, spiritual thoughts don't just happened to me while I'm watching the television or surfing the internet.  But when I talk to and listen to my Higher Power, I become aware of concepts that can only come to me at those times.

that I'm back online with a new computer.  Still trying to learn Windows 8 though.

Lots of folks confuse bad management with destiny. 
~Kin Hubbard

Sunday, November 25, 2012

No Cheating ...

(Have a paper and pencil handy to record your answers.. Your mind isn't as sharp as it once was!)

This is NOT a pushover test. It's a Baby Boomer era test!

There are
20 questions. Average score is 12.
This will be difficult for the younger set.

1. What builds strong bodies 12 ways?

A. Flintstones vitamins
B. The Buttmaster
C. Spaghetti
D. Wonder Bread
E. Orange Juice
F. Milk
G. Cod Liver Oil

2. Before he was Muhammed Ali, he was...

A. Sugar Ray Robinson.
B. Roy Orbison..
C. Gene Autry.
D. Rudolph Valentino.
E. Fabian.
F. Mickey Mantle.
G. Cassius Clay.

3.Pogo, the comic strip character said, 'We have met the enemy and....

A. It's you.
B. He is us.
C. It's the Grinch.
D. He wasn't home.
E. He's really me and you.
F. We quit.
G. He surrendered.

4. Good night, David..

A.. Good night, Chet
B. Sleep well.
C. Good night, Irene.
D.. Good night, Gracie.
E. See you later, alligator.
F. Until tomorrow.
G. Good night, Steve..

5. You'll wonder where the yellow went...

A. When you use Tide
B. When you lose your crayons.
C. When you clean your tub.
D. If you paint the room blue.
E. If you buy a soft water tank.
F. When you use Lady Clairol.
G. When you brush your teeth with Pepsodent.

6. Before he was the Skipper's Little Buddy, Bob Denver was Dobie's friend...

A. Stuart Whitman.
B. Randolph Scott.
C. Steve Reeves..
D.Maynard G. Krebs.
E. Corky B. Dork.
F. Dave the Whale.
G. Zippy Zoo.

7. Liar, liar...

A. You're a liar.
B.. Your nose is growing.
C. Pants on fire.
D.. Join the choir
E. Jump up higher.
F. On the wire.
G. I'm telling Mom.

8. Meanwhile, back in Metropolis, Superman fights never ending battle for truth, justice and.....

A. Wheaties.
B. Lois Lane .
C. TV rating.
D. World peace.
E. Red tights.
F. The American way.
G. News headlines.

9. Hey kids! What time is it?

A. It's time for Yogi Bear.
B It's time to do your homework.
C. It's Howdy Doody Time.
D. It's time for Romper Room.
E. It's bedtime.
F... The Mighty Mouse Hour..
G. Scoopy Doo Time..

10. Lions and tigers and bears..! ....

A. Yikes.
B. Oh, no..
C. Gee whiz.
D. I'm scared...
E. Oh my.
F.. Help! Help!
G. Let's run.

11. Bob Dylan advised us never to trust anyone....
A. Over 40.
B. Wearing a uniform.
C.. Carrying a briefcase.
D. Over 30.
E. You don't know.
F. Who says, 'Trust me'..
G. Who eats tofu.

12. NFL quarterback who appeared in a television commercial wearing women's

A. Troy Aikman
B. Kenny Stabler
C. Joe Namath
D. Roger Staubach
E. Joe Montana
F. Steve Young
G. John Elway

13. Brylcream....

A. Smear it on.
B. You'll smell great.
C. Tame that cowlick.
D. Grease ball heaven.
E. It's a dream.
F. We're your team.
G. A little dab'll do ya.

14. I found my thrill...

A. In Blueberry muffins.
B. With my man, Bill.
C. Down at the mill.
D. Ovthyme and dill.
F. Too late to enjoy.
G. On Blueberry Hill.

15.. Before Robin Williams, Peter Pan was played by...
A. Clark Gable.
B. Mary Martin.
C. Doris Day.
D. Errol Flynn.
E. Sally Fields.
F. Jim Carrey.
G. Jay Leno.

16. Name the Beatles...

A. John, Steve, George, Ringo
B. John, Paul, George, Roscoe
C. John, Paul, Stacey, Ringo
D. Jay, Paul, George, Ringo
E. Lewis, Peter, George, Ringo
F. Jason, Betty, Skipper, Hazel
G. John, Paul, George, Ringo

17. I wonder, wonder, who.
A. Who ate the leftovers?
B. Who did the laundry?
C. Was it you?
D. Who wrote the book of love?
E. Who I am?
F. Passed the test?
G. Knocked on the door?

18. I'm strong to the finish...

A. Cause I eats my broccoli.
B. Cause I eats me spinach.
C. Cause I lift weights.
D. Cause I'm the hero.
E. And don't you for get it.
F. Cause Olive Oyl loves me.
G. To outlast Bruto.

19. When it's least expected, you're elected, you're the star today.

A. Smile, you're on Candid Camera.
B. Smile, you're on Star Search.
C. Smile, you won the lottery.
D. Smile, we're watching you.
E. Smile, the world sees you.
F. Smile, you're a hit.
G. Smile, you're on TV.

20. What do M & M's do?

A. Make your tummy happy.!
B. Melt in your mouth, not in your pocket.
C. Make you fat.
D.. Melt your heart.
E... Make you popular.
F. Melt in your mouth, not in your hand.
G. Come in colors.

Below are the correct answers:
1. D - Wonder Bread
2. G - Cassius Clay
3. B - He Is us
4. A - Good night, Chet
5. G - When you brush your teeth with Pepsodent
6. D - Maynard G. Krebs
7. C - Pants on fire
8. F - The American Way
9. C - It's Howdy Doody Time
10. E - Oh my
11. D - Over 30
12. C - Joe Namath
13. G - A little dab'll do ya
14. G - On Blueberry Hill
15. B - Mary Martin
16. G - John, Paul, George, Ringo
17. D - Who wrote the book of Love
18. B - Cause I eats me spinach
19. A - Smile, you're on Candid Camera
20. F - Melt in your mouth not in your hand

Saturday, November 24, 2012

Thursday, November 22, 2012

gobble, gobble

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

for everything

As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them. 
~John Fitzgerald Kennedy

Wednesday, November 21, 2012

I'm a turkey, You're a turkey

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

for all the people in my life, especially the ones I don't like because they tend to be my best teachers.

for a bit more clarity of thought as each day passes.  I suppose there will come a time when this peaks and I began having less clarity, although I probably won't realize it.  Uh oh, I hope that hasn't already begun.  LOL

for the 4th step of A.A. where I learned to look at my part in everything that happens in my life.  For step 10 of A.A. where I continue to look at my part in everything that happens in my life, even the good stuff.  Especially the good stuff.

An optimist is a person who starts a new diet on Thanksgiving Day. 
~Irv Kupcinet

Tuesday, November 20, 2012

A rather simple life.

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

for the life I have today.  It comes as a result of doing a few things ...

... finding a higher power to which I can surrender (most) of my will
... deciding that I'd rather live a sober life instead of the drunken life I had for so many eyars
... hanging around a bunch of people with whom I normally would not mix
... helping others when I can without having any expectations
... remaining teachable

Thanksgiving Day comes, by statute, once a year; to the honest man it comes as frequently as the heart of gratitude will allow.
~Edward Sandford Martin

Monday, November 19, 2012

Gratitude Week

todAAy i AAM grAAteful & thAAnkful

that this is my favorite week of the year (since I've been in recovery).  We are quite busy at my recovery center.  We have our largest AA meeting of the year on Thanksgiving Day at noon, followed by a pot luck dinner.  There will be 150-200 people attending including some friends and family.  I am honored to be the co-chair of this meeting for the 5th straight year.  I love it.  I just take a wireless microphone around the room and ask people to share their gratitude for a couple of minutes.  We do this for about 50 minutes.  It's always very powerful.

Our AA Roundup for the GLBT community begins Thursday afternoon and runs through Sunday noon.  It's held in a local DoubleTree Hotel each year and will be attended by around 300 people.  There are workshops and speakers (most from around the country).  There is an original recovery-related play, written, produced, directed and performed by friends in recovery.  Last year I got to co-chair this event.  This year, I'm just an attendee.  Whew!

So, you see, I am really looking forward to this week and trying to keep my expectations to a minimum.  I know that what happens will be what is supposed to happen.

My laptop computer has been pronounced dead.  I may purchase one this week or wait until Black Friday (although I have other plans [see above]).   But I'm getting by just fine using the office computer at my recovery center.

The Pilgrims made seven times more graves than huts.  No Americans have been more impoverished than these who, nevertheless, set aside a day of thanksgiving. 
~H.U. Westermayer

Sunday, November 18, 2012

Have a bit of snow

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Saturday, November 17, 2012

Man goes to the dentist ...

A man went to his dentist because he feels something wrong in his mouth. The dentist examines him and says, "that new upper plate I put in for you six months ago is eroding. What have you been eating?"

The man replies, "all I can think of is that about four months ago my wife made some asparagus and put some stuff on it that was delicious...Hollandaise sauce. I loved it so much I now put it on everything --- meat, toast, fish, vegtables, everything."

"Well," says the dentist, "that's probably the problem. Hollandaise sauce is made with lots of lemon juice, which is highly corrosive. It's eaten away your upper plate. I'll make you a new plate, and this time use chrome." "Why chrome?" asks the patient.

To which the dentist replies, "It's simple. Everyone knows that there's no plate like chrome for the Hollandaise!"

Friday, November 16, 2012

A mighty BIG hello to you!

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

My computer problems persist.  Actually, the "geek" who is going to fix the problem (allegedly) is a friend of my partner who is a big drinker.  I've gotten to watch procrastination at its best.  So, I hope you guys have a great weekend and shoot a great round of golf.

See ya next week.

Attitudes are contagious.  Are yours worth catching?  
~Dennis and Wendy Mannering

Thursday, November 15, 2012

Still here

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

for the little things

that it's holiday season and I know how to stay sober.  Actually, I also know how to stay sober when it's NOT holiday season.

that today I will not stand behind a farting camel.

Let us be grateful to the mirror for revealing to us our appearance only.
~Samuel Butler

Wednesday, November 14, 2012


My computer is down and may be repaired or replaced sometime today.  Don't worry, I'll be back ASAP.
And I'm grateful for that.

Note: I wrote this and pre-published it last night from my recovery center.

Tuesday, November 13, 2012

more steps

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

for a meeting about Step 3.  "Made a decision to turn our will and lives over to the care of God as we understood Him."

that it occurred to me that not only is Step 3 about taking action, it's also about not taking action.  I must make the conscious decision to turn over my will (this goes against all my instincts).  I must let go of the instinct to run the world around me.    By doing this, I'm NOT TAKING action that will work against me.  Does this compute with any of you guys?  Or do I need to focus on returning to sanity?  LOL

A hangover is the wrath of grapes. 
~Author Unknown

Monday, November 12, 2012


todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

for those who return to sobriety and recovery after a relapse.  Over the weekend, someone returned who had a number of years, certainly double-digits.  I'm not sure how long they had been drinking again, but I think it was only a few weeks.  Personally, I've always felt that I probably would not make it back if I relapse.  Either my behavior would lead me to an early death or my pride/ego would prevent me from coming back.  So, each time I see someone return it is recorded somewhere in my brain that it is OK to return, if I choose to drink again.  I'll just have to reconnect with my Higher Power.

to be reminded that my willpower will not get me sober or keep me sober.  I have plenty of personal history of this.

The cyclone derives its powers from a calm center.  So does a person. 
 ~Norman Vincent Peale

Sunday, November 11, 2012

Saturday, November 10, 2012

Just a silly little joke this morning

Dear Son,

I'm writing this letter slowly because I know you can't read fast.

We don't live where we did when you left home.Your mum read in the newspaper that most accidents happen within 20 miles from your home, so we moved.

I won't be able to send you the address because the last Arkansas family that lived here took the house numbers when they moved so that they wouldn't have to change their address.

This place is really nice. It even has a washing machine. I'm not sure it works so well though: last week I put a load in and pulled the chain and haven't seen them since.

The weather isn't bad here. It only rained twice last week; the first time for three days and the second time for four days.

About that coat you wanted me to send you, your Uncle Stanley said it would be too heavy to send in the mail with the buttons on, so we cut them off and put them in the pockets.

John locked his keys in the car yesterday. We were really worried because it took him two hours to get me and your mother out.

Your sister had a baby this morning; but I haven't found out what it is yet so I don't know if you're an aunt or an uncle. The baby looks just like your brother....

Uncle Ted fell in a whiskey vat last week. Some men tried to pull him out, but he fought them off and drowned. We had him cremated and he burned for three days.

Three of your friends went off a bridge in a pick-up truck. Ralph was driving. He rolled down the window and swam to safety. Your other two friends were in the back. They drowned cause they couldn't get the tailgate down.

There isn't much more news at this time. Nothing much has happened.