Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Don't be a doormat.

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

for my step work with another alcoholic. Yesterday, we read more about Step 8 -- "Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all."

"The moment we ponder a twisted or broken relationship with another person, our emotions go on the defensive. To escape looking at the wrongs we have done another, we resentfully focus on the wrong he has done us. Triumphantly we seize upon his misbehavior as the perfect excuse for minimizing or forgetting our own."

"Since defective relations with other human beings have nearly always been the immediate cause of our woes, including our alcoholism, no field of investigation could yield more satisfying and valuable rewards than this one."

I'm really grateful that I'm not nearly as affected by denial as I might have been. I've met many people who live in denial. It can be really tough getting through to them. Another good reason to keep coming back. LOL

Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood.
- Helen Keller


Pammie said...

I actually worked with a woman one time who could not come up with one single harm she had ever done another human being. She told me that she was so glad that she would not have to work 8&9 since they did not really have anything to do with her LOL.

dAAve said...

That's too funny Pam.

Mary Christine said...

I worked with someone once who believed she didn't need to do any steps beyond three because she had had a near-death experience.

It's not just a river in Egypt.

Syd said...

Introspection is a difficult concept for many. And then for some of us, that is all we have done. Balance is helpful!

Jess Mistress of Mischief said...

Yup, I've got a new one now who has decided that all she needs is to kinda go to meetings and be able to chat with someone every once in a while. She's fine, it's everyone else who is messed up.

Joan Brown said...

For over 10 years I was an addict and needed alcohol abuse detox help. When I got the help I needed, I could start living my life again.