Tuesday, July 01, 2008

The wisdom to know the difference

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

for the years my father gave my Mom and sister and myself -- he was killed last night in a car accident. He and I have been estranged for the past 28 years, although I made my Step 9 amends to him 4 years ago. I shed no tears for the man who abandoned his family so he could begin a new life with a much, much younger woman. I certainly don't ask for your sympathy but a prayer may be in order for those who loved him.

that I began therapy sessions with a new psychiatrist (new to me) yesterday; I need some serious talking time with the (self-induced) stress I'm experiencing.

that I haven't even had a thought about drinking alcohol during this difficult time for me (it has nothing to do with my father). I'm going through some other things that I prefer not to put out on the internet.

that my relatively short time sober and in recovery has taught me that This Too Shall Pass

Kindness has converted more sinners than zeal, eloquence, or learning.
-Frederick W. Faber


Pam said...

Dave tell your new dr. not to try and mess with the part of your brain that controls your weird sense of humor, cause we like that part. I'm sorry your Dad missed 28years of your life.

Todd HellsKitchen said...

I'll say a prayer for your Dad and for you...


Scott W said...

I knew about your relationship with your father. And prayers go his way. But it was sorta weird to read about his passing.

Good luck with the new therapist.

Dharma Kelleher said...

Keeping you in my thoughts. I am grateful to have you in my life, even if it is by way of your blog.

Tom said...

holding you and yours in the light... twice for the poor sap in that photo... ouch.

Mary Christine said...

I find that when the people I didn't like die, it is just as hard as when the people I do like die. I am glad you made your amends... that really helps.


Syd said...

Dave, I'm sorry about your dad. Even though you were estranged, I think that the blood connection is a strong thing. At a level much deeper than we realize, we are all connected.

♥Shann♥ said...

I am glad you were able to make your amends and get to an understanding for you.

sending you love and good thoughts to you and your family

Also you rock, in case you didnt know... : )

Zane-nawwaa said...

I certainly Understand as I know the estrangement of father and son.
When my father died I cried, not for the memories we made, but for the ones we did not. I am so glad you take care of yourself. God Bless. Love You.

Trailboss said...

My prayers are for you and the people effected by his death.

Peace be with you.

Scott said...

prayers for you and your dad dAAve... lots of prayers my friend!

peanut said...

Dear Dave,

I am sorry for your Father's death. Also for the heartache he caused by leaving his family and the hurt caused. Your family has had more than it's share of heartache the past few years.
God bless you and your sister and, of course Pat.

Your Father has a date with a reconning of his life just as we all will do one day. Pray for him !

I love you, Peace be with you, dAAve

Gwen R said...

I will pray for your continued growth right now ~ no matter how hard. I have found the hardest growth spurts teach me the most.

Love and hugs and prayers for your family during this time.


Anonymous said...

thanks for sharing what you have already. you are a good man. and a damn funny one too. and loved by many, most importantly, by god.