THE PROBLEM IS POWERLESSNESS and THE SOLUTION IS SURRENDER!
Surrender usually means admitting we are powerless over "this thing". Of course, it is very hard for us to do this. Alcoholics, for example, must say, "I'm powerless over alcohol." We have to surrender to a Power greater than ourselves and we have to let go of the outcome.
A lot of people see surrender as a weakness, but those of us who have had some experience with surrender know that it is the way we get true strength. All the people who are remembered as successful military commanders, for example, had one thing in common: they knew how to surrender or retreat. Custer didn't, MacArthur did.
Until we fully concede that our uncontrolled use of alcohol has made us ill we will find no reason for treatment of this illness.
Because our alcoholism is self-inflicted and develops so slowly, we are averse to look upon it as a disease. Thus we retard our recovery with egotistical thoughts of false security.
Most sick persons require exacting care. They rarely ask a surgeon to partially remove a malignant growth. That doesn't make sense. Yet many alcoholics come into AA seeking temporary relief from alcoholism, which can become as serious as any malignant disease. A realistic view toward alcoholism is our first step toward recovery.
Paradoxically, admission of our weakness soon becomes a source of new strength. Make it now and avoid the future reservations that bar success.
(This is part of an exercise I give to sponsees. It's followed by a series of questions.)