Wednesday, May 02, 2007

on being forgiving ...

In a recent AA meeting, we discussed forgiveness. The chairperson used the word "amnesty" as a means of forgiving a person who we feel needs our forgiveness.
I have never heard that term used in conjuction with being forgiving of our friends or acquaintances. For me, it brings forth thoughts of letting someone off the hook.

Also for me, I know that I must be very, very careful about doling out my forgiveness of those who I think need it. This conjures the view of me sitting up on my pedestal and judging my fellow man, then deciding who gets my forgiveness -- and who doesn't.

In my new life of sobriety and recovery, I am learning how to just Live and Let Live. If I sit in judgement of someone and fail to forgive, I am usually going to be nurturing a resentment. And I know exactly what the big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous tells me about resentments.

todAAy i AAm grAAteful & thAAnkful

for the consequences of recovery

that since I stopped drinking 3 years and 8 months ago, I have been Happy and Joyous about 90% of the time. The other 10% I have been in my head thinking only of me, not willing to get out of it. I call this FEAR.

that a couple of days ago I did not act upon a desire to have a cigarette. This is a result of the program of Alcoholics Anonymous and the principles it has taught me. (this was the first time I've wanted to smoke since I became a non-smoker almost 7 months ago)

for the humor of actor Tom Poston, who died at 85.

that I remodelled my living room by moving a few pieces of furniture and some pictures -- saved a bunch of money this way! I was planning on getting rid of my current (10 month-old) furniture, then buying a new sectional sofa. But I realized I was giving in to my enough is never enough disease and used restraint. I am having to do the same with my TV and stereo, both of which operate just fine and don't need replacing. I am tattling on myself so as to help me make myself more accountable to me!

Each day we make deposits in the memory banks of our children.
-Charles Swindoll


Pam said...

You are just full of good stuff this mornin'....sweet thang!
Enjoy your Wednesday.

Redhead Gal said...

I like your thoughts on forgiveness very much.

I still want a new couch, however.

Mary Christine said...

Like your thoughts on forgiveness. Are you not getting a new stereo?

Scott W said...

I did not realize you had children.

lushgurl said...

Way to go telling on yourself! AND for not picking up that first ciggie- you rock dAAve!!
love and HUGS

Sober Chick said...

Not too bad that 90 percent :) I'd take it in a heart beat!

Syd said...

Amnesty is really restoring those who commit acts against us to the state of innocence. It is more than a pardon because it erases all remembrance of the offense which to me means that I forgive and forget without any grudges. Forgetting is a hard one for me as I can more easily forgive than just never remember. That's probably why my resentment list was five pages long.

AAwoken said...

I was driving to the mall when I had a sudden urge to smoke. Really bad. Thought of even asking one of the "homeless" folks for a ciggie.

Didn't do it.


Actually i could use a new living room set...just ship it up.

lash505 said...

its a hard one daave..

Dallas said...

For over 10 years I was an addict and needed cocaine addiction help. When I got the help I needed, I could start living my life again.

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