Our drinking was connected with many habits - big and little. Some of them were thinking habits, or things we felt inside ourselves. Others were doing habits - things we did, actions we took. In getting used to not drinking, we have found that we needed new habits to take the place of those old ones.
LIVING SOBER, page 1
Except for the 4 years I worked, during my last 10 years of drinking I was usually at home or at the bar. All my friends were at the bar. All of them. I knew nobody else.
When I began attending AA meetings, I met new people. Made new friends. People who didn't drink, yet were happy. People who talked about ways to change my life. They said change didn't have to hurt. But I continued to drink for another 3 months because I was afraid. Afraid to stop. I couldn't imagine what my life would be like if I stopped. But I knew where it was going if I didn't stop.
I finally did stop when I asked my HP to help me. The lifelong craving/obsession was removed from me.
I went to AA meetings every day; often twice each day. But I still went to the bar every day. I just didn't drink alcohol; I changed from rum & coke to Cranberry juice. The bar was a habit and I thought the people there were my friends.
It was about the time I worked Step 9, with my sponsor, that my sober life took a new turn. I cleaned up the wreckage of my past (the best I possibly could) and I finally stopped going to the bar. It was no longer any fun. I have not been back since and have not missed it for one minute.
The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous tells us that after working the first 9 steps, our lives will change; the Promises will begin to be realized. This was certainly true in my case. The 1st Promise reads ...
"We will know a new freedom and happiness."
I'll go along with that.